Summer Playdates & Social Skills: Helping Your Little One Shine ☀️

Let’s be real…Summer playdates sound adorable in theory. But if your toddler struggles with sharing, greeting, or just saying hi without hiding behind your leg—you’re not alone.

As a speech therapist and a toddler mom, I’ve seen both sides:

✔️ The magic of kids building friendships

✔️ The chaos of missed turns, shy moments, and toddler negotiations gone wrong

But here’s the good news: Playdates are actually the perfect chance to help your little one practice social skills—in a way that feels fun, not forced.

Here are some tips that work in my house (and with the families I coach) to help playdates feel easier—for you AND your child

Children engage in a fun and interactive play date, guided by an adult, highlighting the joys of learning and socializing together.

1) Talk About It Before You Go

Playdates can feel overwhelming if your child doesn’t know what to expect. Before you head out, keep it simple:

• “Today we’re going to see Mia. You can say hi and share toys.”

• "We’ll take turns on the slide.”

Simple reminders (or a little picture schedule!) can help ease the nerves.

2) Short & Sweet Wins Every Time

Honestly? 30–45 minutes is plenty for a toddler playdate. Stopping before the meltdown = a win.

3) Side-By-Side Play is STILL Social

If your toddler plays next to their friend but not with them yet? That’s okay! Parallel play is a normal step toward connection. No need to rush.

4) Pick “Together” Toys

Bubbles, big balls, building blocks = toys that make sharing and turn-taking easier (without needing a script). Choose things that encourage natural interaction.

5) Model, Model, Model

You’re their best teacher. Say things like:

• “Can I have a turn?”

• “Thank you!”

• “Let’s play together.”

  
  

Then celebrate every attempt—because it counts!

6) Patience First, Progress Later

Social skills are hard when you’re little. Celebrate the small wins and give grace for the tricky moments. They’re learning—even when it doesn’t look perfect.

From My Family to Yours ❤️

At our house? Playdates usually start with “no” and end with hugs (and maybe a snack negotiation). But watching my toddlers practice real connection—even messy, toddler-style connection—is one of my favorite parts of summer.

Need Support?

If your child finds playdates extra hard, I offer social skills groups and parent coaching sessions to help take the pressure off (for both of you). Let’s build those friendships—one small step at a time. 💛