Back to School, Big Feelings: Helping Your Toddler Feel Ready (Even If You're Not)

It’s totally normal for drop-offs to be hard—but moments like this are what make the prep worth it. Let your little one feel all the things, and trust that joy is just around the corner.

Let your little one feel all the things, and trust that joy is just around the corner.

Let your little one feel all the things, and trust that joy is just around the corner.

Let’s talk transitions, toddler style.

Hey there, friend—

If you’re anything like me, back-to-school season feels a little bit like a mix of hope, chaos, and a whole lot of “how is my baby this big already?” vibes. Whether your toddler is starting preschool for the first time, heading back to a familiar classroom, or simply watching big siblings get dropped off, this time of year brings big changes—and even bigger feelings.

As a speech therapist and mom of two little ones, I know transitions can bring all kinds of emotions—for kids and parents. But I also know a little prep goes a long way. So let’s talk about how to support your child’s communication, confidence, and connection as they step into a new routine.

1. Talk About What’s Coming Up

Even if your toddler isn’t saying full sentences yet, they understand so much. Start chatting casually about what school might be like:

• “You’ll see new toys, meet new friends, and play outside!”

  
  

Use pictures, books, or even a quick drive-by the school to build familiarity.

🗣 Why it helps: This builds your child’s language skills and eases anxiety by making the unknown feel more predictable.

2. Practice Everyday School Routines

Try walking through parts of the day before the first day:

• Putting on their backpack

• Saying “bye” at the door

• Washing hands or eating snack at a little table

  
  

Keep it playful and low-pressure!

You can even turn it into pretend play: “Okay, now I’m your teacher—time to line up!”

3. Model Words They Might Need

Kids don’t always know what to say when they’re nervous or unsure. Try giving them a few go-to phrases:

• “Can I play too?”

• “Help, please.”

• “All done.”

  
  

And remember—it’s totally okay to model these over and over. Toddlers learn by hearing and watching you.

4. Let the Feelings Happen

Even with all the prep in the world, your child might still cling to you, cry, or act out a little in the first days. That’s normal.

The most important thing? Stay calm, keep the goodbyes short, and remind them you’ll be back. 

You’re their safe place—and the trust you’ve built will carry them through.

5. Celebrate the Little Wins

Whether your child waved goodbye, said “hi” to a friend, or just walked through the classroom door without melting down—that counts.

Big transitions take time. And our job isn’t to make it perfect… just to walk alongside them as they grow.

From My Heart to Yours 💛

This week, as backpacks get packed and butterflies take flight, I’m right there with you. It's okay to feel emotional, to second-guess, to celebrate—and to cry a little after drop-off.

And if your child needs a little extra support with communication, transitions, or confidence in social settings—I’m here to help. Whether it’s a personalized social story, a back-to-school speech consult, or just a virtual pep talk—I’ve got you.

Here’s to a school year full of growth, giggles, and grace. You’ve got this.

With love, Danielle – Toddler Mom, SLP, and Back-to-School Snack Pack Queen 🍎✨